You sound like myself when I was deciding on flooring
Either I didn't like it much against the walnut in ours, was too hard to install, or too heavy, or too thick...decisions, decisions! In the end I fell for some German made Elesgo flooring from a supplier in Canada lol! Haven't gotten it in yet but I think <hope> it's going to work well and look really nice in our set up.
Maybe get some samples home, that helped me a lot. There's tons of info on here in regards to requirements, installation, and pics of what others have done that also helped me A TON. Have you thought about cork? That might look nice too!
Tami