Update: thanks for all the helpful feedback, I’m 6 days into the maiden voyage with my fiancé and our 2 month old baby daughter so in between driving time, this has been my focus to get this rig ship shape for the quarantine isolation period. As long as I can keep them comfortable, she’ll let us stay out on the road.
My fingers are crossed the problem may be solved. Here’s what I did this eve, for helping other folks that may encounter this issue:
-drained gray tank.
-filled fresh water til overflow and sensor showed full.
-drove trailer slowly to “burp” the freshwater tank.
-after 5 minute “burping” drive around campsite, freshwater tank monitor showed empty.
-checked gray water tank. Completely bone dry.
-tried to top off freshwater tank, spit water from freshwater inlet within seconds.
-measured rate of flow from kitchen sink using gallon water jug, rate of flow is 1 gallon per minute.
-set stop watch and let kitchen sink free flow, draining to gray water tank.
-at 31mins, shower drain gurgled and began seeping/overflowing. Gray tank capacity = approx 31 gallons.
-drained gray tank.
-continued free flowing kitchen sink for another 23 mins, giving us a measurement of 54 gallons that was in freshwater tank, despite monitor showing empty.
Conclusion: my freshwater monitor cannot be trusted. Gray water monitor cannot be trusted.
If I conservatively estimate 2 gallons per minute rate of flow (average between shower and sink outputs) I should have 25 minutes of free flow water on a full tank of fresh.
I think I’ll go take a nice hot shower now

thanks again for all your support, I’m sure it won’t be the last issue I have this this trailer but I know where I’ll come when I need another set of eyes.