Its been almost a year and I took the dash apart severl times
Called the mother ship, they did not know where it was said it was wired back to the factory wire harness, probably a ground / relay.
I replaced every relay in the beast which was a bout 12
This weekend I pulled the fog lights, pulled the dash, pulled every fuse I could find,
then I finally found the fuse
The problem was a ford mini fuse #16 on the passenger side fuse panel marked 16 BBP-20 which I think means "for body builder aux power 20 amp"
replaced it worked fine, then I broke the bulb putting it back in place, off to NAPA I went.