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Old 12-20-2015, 11:21 AM   #1
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Last year (2014) in November my husband Jack passed away and my life has changed forever. He was my best friend and we loved traveling together and I miss him greatly. My decision now is whether to continue traveling solo with our Airstream. I could use some discussion on the pros and cons of women on the road alone.
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Old 12-20-2015, 11:33 AM   #2
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Sorry for your loss. Are you sure it needs to be alone? Is there any chance you have a friend or two that might also be interested in traveling that way?
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Old 12-20-2015, 11:46 AM   #3
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I am so sorry for your loss, and good for you for even thinking of traveling alone.

My husband died suddenly 21 months ago, 900 miles from home, and it never occurred to me not to continue on as long as I was healthy and able. We had been retired 6 1/2 years, and traveled 146,000 miles together. We loved it.

I drove the Interstate home after he died, and then my first trip out about 10 weeks later was to the country cemetery where he is buried, for Memorial Day. I stayed three nights with him there, and have been going ever since, tho slow and in bits and pieces that first year.

The good and the bad thing about the Interstate, and traveling in it alone, was that he was everywhere I turned. It eventually came to comfort me, and still does. I suspect it would be the same for you.

I have logged about 24,000 miles alone, made a few stupid mistakes, but have never for a moment felt afraid. I do have a dog, who is a very fierce protector, and she also provides a great deal of companionship.

I see you have a couple of pups, too....that will help.

Basic common sense will usually see you thru, tho I did find there was a bit of a learning curve, doing it myself.

I say...go and do and enjoy while you can. Although it seems pretty much a couples thing, there are a fair number of women out there traveling by themselves.

There is another woman here who lost her husband recently, and is planning to begin traveling alone next year, so perhaps she will chime in.

It is eminently doable, from my perspective.

I have just set up a Shirley Valentine gathering in Astoria, OR, for next September, if you might be interested. It will be at least some women traveling alone, and probably mostly women, period, if you want to take a look at that thread and join us.

Take care of yourself, and don't be afraid. Life is short, we need to live and enjoy while we are able to go and do, is my thought.

Good luck, and I will follow this thread.


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Old 12-20-2015, 01:28 PM   #4
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So sorry.

See how you feel. At some point in time, keeping busy might be helpful.

Baby steps…Boondocking may not be the best idea for a variety of reasons.

Rallies, music festivals, and group activities would probably be safer and more enjoyable. I camp with a camping club, which there are many in my area, that goes to Bluegrass festivals. People look out for each other, eat together, and friendships are formed. People seem to be like minded and more community oriented. I'm thinking people keep more to themselves at campgrounds. You will likely find folks to chat with, someone who understands, who would appreciate a new friend. Maybe someone you could help cope with a loss.

It could be that you have friends or family that are looking for a way to help you. See if any of them would consider trying camping in style.
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Old 12-20-2015, 02:31 PM   #5
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My heartfelt condolences on the loss of your husband. I hope, though, that you will NOT let this stop you from hitching up and creating your own adventures. I travel in my 23' FC AS across the country and back, alone except for my dog. I have never had a moment's pause. I find that, if anything, fellow campers (especially fellow Streamers) are even more friendly and helpful than when my husband is with me. I LOVE traveling alone!! I go with the assumption that people are nice and that I can manage to cope in most situations. I am careful--very--about WHERE I camp, and I almost never tow at night. I carry some protection, but have never had to even consider using it. So, carry your husband along with you in your heart, travel can be healing, and it is always an adventure! Best wishes.
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Old 12-20-2015, 02:53 PM   #6
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Thanks for answering my post so quickly. As to friends to travel with me,
I can say that most are either not interested in travel with a trailer or they are at home with husbands. I am totally confident that I can handle the trailer and all the things that go with driving, hooking/unhooking and parking. I have been the driver of the tow vehicle since we acquired the trailer used in 2008, but I have never actually traveled by myself. I guess the only way to overcome the mystery of how I would feel will be to just go. I appreciate the invitation to Or in September and will look into getting there. It would be great to meet some other lady travelers with the same interests. Keep me posted on the planning. Thanks
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Good for you!

Try some things out close to home, and get your sea legs in place, is my thought, before taking on anything too adventurous.

The biggest adjustment, for me, was being alone...but, like most things, it is better with doing.

I do talk a lot to my dog, at home or away.


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Old 12-20-2015, 04:21 PM   #8
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for years i have been traveling alone and heavily rely on the kindness of strangers if and when i need help,like backing up in a tight space...i meet all kinds of fabulous people,easier to do when alone,couples tend to stick together...but if you go towards people ...you will always be welcome to chat,share a meal,etc...and yes, you can go on rallies etc...follow you dreams,your husband would want you to...I too have a dog, a minn pinn...great traveling companion!!!if you ever want to come to ny,Dutchess county,or,nova scotia where i spend part of the summer,you are very welcome...Happy travels.M
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There is another woman here who lost her husband recently, and is planning to begin traveling alone next year, so perhaps she will chime in.

That would be me.

First, let me extend my deepest condolences.

Like the title of Maggie's thread, this is a different life. I would be out there camping by myself already except:
a. It's winter, and even in Texas that makes camping a little chilly for me.
b. My husband's passing has left me a lot of stuff to clean out, clean up, etc.

So, the plan is to spend the next couple or three months getting organized, and then I'll go camping.

Just like Maggie says, I do talk to the dog a lot. She's a good listener.

Please stay in touch. We're both in Texas, although a few miles apart. The state parks in the Hill Country are among my favorites, so I'll be down your way in the spring. First reservation is for Garner in the middle of April. Kids and grandkids will be there, so that one's already on the calendar.
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Concur with Maggie.

Before looking for a companion, though, try it solo. You might just surprise yourself!
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You might look into setting up a backup camera for the rear of the trailer. That should make easier to back into camping spots, especially in lower light situations. Best wishes whatever you decide.

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I travel alone about 22k a season for work. My husband is home working. I am very sorry for your lost. Since you always did the driving, youvwill be fine, I think maggie and miniandrews, and all the responses are spot on for you.
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I am not a woman traveling alone but your thoughts of continuing to travel inspired me to share the following poem with you. Are you really alone?


Death Is Nothing At All - Poem by Henry Scott Holland

Death is nothing at all.
I have only slipped away to the next room.
I am I and you are you.
Whatever we were to each other,
That, we still are.

Call me by my old familiar name.
Speak to me in the easy way
which you always used.
Put no difference into your tone.
Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow.

Laugh as we always laughed
at the little jokes we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me. Pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word
that it always was.
Let it be spoken without effect.
Without the trace of a shadow on it.

Life means all that it ever meant.
It is the same that it ever was.
There is absolute unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind
because I am out of sight?

I am but waiting for you.
For an interval.
Somewhere. Very near.
Just around the corner.

All is well.

Nothing is past; nothing is lost. One brief moment and all will be as it was before only better, infinitely happier and forever we will all be one together with Christ.
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Thanks, Kittyfeet. That's a good one!
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