I disagree with the assessment the seller is being difficult. There is nothing more frustrating than the steady flow of looky-loos that want to kick the tires of whatever you are selling, but have no intention of buying it. This gets exponentially more frustrating when you are dealing with the internet. I too have got to the point where I've said - screw it - if someone is interested they can come and talk to me in person.
Your first message was August 3rd... and on the 16th you said you had 'given it up' because of the insurance issue. Then on the 23rd the deal came back to life. You posted all of this right here... which is completely fine... but generally the specifics of offers and counter offers aren't posted publicly when the money hasn't changed hands.
It's been nearly a month... did you even give this guy a deposit? If not, I completely sympathize with him when he says 'Just forget it'. Maybe it wasn't a great trailer/deal, maybe it was... but he dropped his price AND said he'd deliver it - which you admitted was a big value to you. Instead of dropping the hammer, you came here to hum and haw some more... disclosing his offer to boot.
When I bought my Airstream, it went like this:
"Hi, you have an Airstream that I want. The closest dealer is YYY Airstream, they have my Visa number and authorization to inspect and report any problems - we can talk about any issues if they come up"
The dealer found a faucet that needed to replaced, a missing water-door key, and a broken landing jack...
"Hi, I'm prepared to offer you $xxx for the trailer, minus the repairs estimated - do you want me to pay for them and deduct it from my offer, or do you want to pay the repairs?"
They paid for the repairs...
"Hi, I've wired $5000 to the account you've specified, YYY is willing to act as escrow for free as they like you and you did spend some money there getting it fixed. My guy will be there within the week, I'll pay any storage fees, and before it leaves the lot you'll have the balance of the money."
Now... I did lots of research here as well... but, I didn't get into where the lived, whether they used it as a home, how much I offered, how much they countered, or anything to jeopardize MY deal I was trying to make, or the potential of ANOTHER deal being made if I bailed. That's just good etiquette, esp for bigger ticket items.
My Airstream now sits 3 feet out my office window. It had over 1500
views on AS Classifieds in 2 days... Can you imagine the joy of sorting through all the emails/messages of people that would never, ever close a deal on it?
If/when I ever sell it... I'll be grumpy too... for the same reason I never 'test drive' a vehicle I am not ready to purchase that day (maybe not actually buying it, but ready and able to).
Define what it is you want, the price you want to pay, the 'issues' you are prepared to deal with - and when all those things come together - BUY IT.
This very well could have been a crappy deal... or it could have been a great deal... That's why they actually have to press a button on "Deal or No Deal"... because you don't know until you hit the button.
... end of rant ...