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10-10-2014, 05:37 PM
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1968 17' Caravel
Battle Ground
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Take care, Maggie, I think of you and your new journey often. Sounds like Lily wants you to know she can help provide for the family
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10-10-2014, 05:41 PM
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Rivet Master
2007 Interstate
Normal
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Join Date: Jan 2009
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Thank you, Stephanie.
I don't know that Lily would have shared that rabbit carcass with me, but then..I didn't ask.
She is certainly my protector...to a fault, I'm told.
Maggie
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10-10-2014, 07:21 PM
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Rivet Master
1957 22' Caravanner
Port Hadlock
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Originally Posted by Lily&Me
And, someone over the weekend, who didn't know, asked about my "we-speak", thinking I had a spouse or partner who hadn't yet showed themselves at the rally. That happens sometimes.
When I do "I-speak", it requires a very conscious effort on my part. My preference seems to be to cling to the "we", as it is what rolls most naturally off my tongue......and, I am telling myself that Lily and I are a "we"....but really it is mostly that I just don't want to let go of it.
And, it's okay. I will let go of it when I am ready.
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I still do "we speak" and it's been nearly four years since I lost Pam. Not going to change, I don't think. I just tell everyone that I mean Brissy the cat and me. Sometimes that's true.
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10-10-2014, 07:23 PM
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Rivet Master
2007 Interstate
Normal
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Maggie
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10-11-2014, 05:00 AM
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Rivet Master
2007 Interstate
Normal
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Join Date: Jan 2009
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Evenings on the IPad:
Grieving is not a short-term process; it's not even a long-term process; it's a lifelong process. 'Having a future' now means that although your life will flow again, it will flow differently as a result of the loss. Your grief will become incorporated into your life history, become a part of your identity. And you will continue now, and forever, to redefine your relationship with your deceased loved one. Death doesn't end the relationship, it simply forges a new type of relationship - one based not on physical presence but on memory, spirit, and love.
~ Transcending Loss by Ashley Davis Bush
Maggie
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10-11-2014, 05:43 AM
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Refugee from Napa, CA
2015 25' Flying Cloud
Currently Looking...
Formerly Napa
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Very nice Maggie...
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10-11-2014, 05:51 AM
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Rivet Master
2007 Interstate
Normal
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Thank you.....the comforting and emotionally grounding words of others.
I've started sending some of these to my daughter, who, since I've been home, I've been able to Skype with and see her face since they lost their baby.
Although she spoke very realistic words about the risks of pregnancy at 38, how much could go wrong in the first few months, etc., they were completely unprepared for the baby dying in utero and the trauma of a medically induced abortion.
They never held that baby, but had it, nonetheless, and are grieving.
Maybe Mummie going thru the loss of her spouse and best friend has prepared me some for understanding and helping her.
Maggie
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10-11-2014, 06:09 AM
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2007 Interstate
Normal
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When we lost our beloved Brittney Spaniel 10 years or so ago, Doug and I cried off and on for 3 days.
One of the things we came to realize was that the loss of a loved one can resurrect every loss you ever suffered, physcal or emotional, human or situational, by death or other trauma.
Those early periods are, in part, so overwhelming because the pain of other losses rise to the surface and compound the present.
Losing a pet is not the same as losing a human, but those bonds run just as deep, as any pet lover knows.
Maggie
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10-11-2014, 06:30 AM
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Rivet Master
2007 Interstate
Normal
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A cold-weather morning....coffee and a fire.
Maggie
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10-12-2014, 06:15 AM
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Rivet Master
2007 Interstate
Normal
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Lily has brought a hindquarter, spinal column, little feet...and, this morning, what appears to be the hide of a rabbit.
To the back door, or inside, if I didn't see it first. That should be the last of it, unless there's another foot out there somewhere. I haven't been counting.
Everything picked clean, and the hide nothing but fur and skin.
That is one efficient little eater, that cat.
Park personnel tell us that the wild cats in their parks do very well....able to catch small animals for food, also to climb trees to get away from coyotes and other predators.
I have a new respect for cats.
Maggie
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10-12-2014, 10:11 AM
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Rivet Master
2007 Interstate
Normal
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'Tis Sunday at home, which means dinner with my family.
This week, as I have been gone, at Grandma's house. I have a favorite apple crisp recipe in the oven, which I thought I would share here, as recipes always seem to be appreciated.
I cut this out of the local newspaper at least 30 years ago. It is delicious, has very little fat in it, and a yummy, sugar-cookie type, crunchy crust.
I use a deep casserole dish and double the filling recipe, which makes for much more apple than crust, which we like. I use Spenda Brown for the sugar in the filling, which cuts that a bit, and a mixture of Granny Smith, Mcintosh and Jonathon apples....whatever is at a good price.
Farm-Style Apple Crisp
6 cups sliced apples
1 cup sugar
2 tablespoons flour
1/2 teaspoon cinnamon
Mix dry ingredients together, then mix thoroughoy with apple slices. Pour into a greased baking dish. Dot with about 2 tablespoons butter, cut up.
Mix:
1 cup flour
1 cup sugar
1 teaspoon baking soda
1 teaspoon cinnamon
1/2 teaspoon salt
Beat a large egg separately, then stir into dry mixture with fork. This will be crumbly and not stick together... just incorporate well.
Spread topping over apples and bake at 325 degrees for about 1 hour.
Enjoy!
Maggie
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10-12-2014, 01:54 PM
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1973 27' Overlander
1995 19' "B" Van Airstream 190
Bay City
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Hi Maggie!!! I'll try that recipe as soon as we get home... there are apples waiting!!!we're at an Airstream Rally in Jackson, California... great group, great place... heading back to Astoria tomorrow... get there Tuesday... been totally fun here, as usual... all right, keep having fun... hugs and love to you and Lily , gail
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10-12-2014, 01:58 PM
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Rivet Master
2007 Interstate
Normal
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Hi Gail!
Glad you are having a good time.
The year Doug & I took the train from Chicago to Seattle and back, it was in October.
We rented an RV for a week and drove to the Redwoods and back.
A beautiful time of year out there.
I'm having a little apple crisp right now ....one of the privileges of adulthood.
Take care,
Maggie
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10-12-2014, 02:06 PM
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Rivet Master
2007 Interstate
Normal
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I am conflicted about acknowledging the monthly anniversary of Doug's death, but can't seem to keep my mind off of it.
It feels a bit unhealthy, but my thoughts will simply not stay away from what was happening 7 months ago.
His kids deal with the same thing, I know. Maybe after the first year.....
It takes as long as it takes, right?
Maggie
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“All I know from my own experience is that the more loss we feel the more grateful we should be for whatever it was we had to lose. It means we had something worth grieving for. The ones I’m sorry for are the ones that go through life not even knowing what grief is.” - Frank O’Connor
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10-12-2014, 02:45 PM
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A Very Different Kind of Life
Quote:
Originally Posted by Lily&Me
I am conflicted about acknowledging the monthly anniversary of Doug's death, but can't seem to keep my mind off of it.
It feels a bit unhealthy, but my thoughts will simply not stay away from what was happening 7 months ago.
His kids deal with the same thing, I know. Maybe after the first year.....
It takes as long as it takes, right?
Maggie
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“All I know from my own experience is that the more loss we feel the more grateful we should be for whatever it was we had to lose. It means we had something worth grieving for. The ones I’m sorry for are the ones that go through life not even knowing what grief is.” - Frank O’Connor
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This sounds normal to Maggie. Part of the healing process IMO and the length of time required differs between individuals. You're a super trooper in my book.
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10-12-2014, 02:52 PM
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2007 Interstate
Normal
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Thank you.
It's only 7 months. There may come a time when I won't have these mental re-runs, but right now it's hard to imagine.
Looking for something to be grateful for......the pain now is not what it was then.
Maggie
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10-12-2014, 03:39 PM
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Rivet Master
1999 34' Excella
Currently Looking...
Hillsboro
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Be careful about letting Lily out alone....
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10-12-2014, 04:06 PM
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Rivet Master
2007 Interstate
Normal
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Our back yard is fenced in, and a coyote couldn't get in.....even if there were one in town, which seems highly unlikely.
There are the occasional fox seen.
I also watch her outside, so know for certain she didn't kill and eat the bunny rabbit. She does like to chase them and the squirrels, tho.
Whatever it was, it did a very thorough job.
Maggie
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10-12-2014, 05:31 PM
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Rivet Master
1966 22' Safari
Hilltop Lakes
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You'd be surprised what coyotes can do with fences and where you'll find them. We live in the Dallas/Ft. Worth metroplex and used to have a pack of them right across the street. Too many houses there now, so they've moved. A friend who used to live a few miles west of us said he heard them closer to his house than he did when he lived on a ranch. I've seen one in the parking lot at work--near DFW Airport.
Fences are no particular challenge to them either. It's over, under, around or through.
Also, they are quite vocal. You'll hear them along about dark.
Good news for you is that they usually devour their prey completely. If Lily found the leftovers of that rabbit, it's unlikely that coyotes killed it.
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10-12-2014, 06:53 PM
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Rivet Master
2005 25' Safari
Salem
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Join Date: Mar 2006
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Originally Posted by DIR1
Hi Maggie!!! I'll try that recipe as soon as we get home... there are apples waiting!!!we're at an Airstream Rally in Jackson, California... great group, great place... heading back to Astoria tomorrow... get there Tuesday... been totally fun here, as usual... all right, keep having fun... hugs and love to you and Lily , Gail
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Hi, Maggie; It would have been great if you were at Jackson Rancheria with us this weekend.
(1.) Gail, Don, and Gracie's B-190
(2.) Bob, Lee Lee, and Boo-Boo's Lincoln and Safari 25-B
(3.) A few of the about 50 Airstreams here.
(4.) A few more.
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