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Old 03-23-2016, 04:43 PM   #2073
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Maggie you may have one of the reasons, FB.

I also wonder if it also depends on the tone and undertone in which a person presents their situation.

Although you have shared some of your trials and sadness. You have never invited us to a pity party, a woe is me party, a why did this happen to me?

You don't whine, you share. (not to be confused with an occasional glass of Sofia)

These kinds of things make a big difference.
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Old 03-23-2016, 06:31 PM   #2074
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I just go by the old saying from way back in the days from a pre-Internet chat room, 'alt.callahans'

Shared grief is divided; shared joy is multiplied.

I've liked that approach for a long time.

It helped a lot when a friend lost a daughter before she was born. It took him 20 years to sort of get over it, and I like to think we all helped by listening to his pain and giving him love back.
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Old 03-23-2016, 07:13 PM   #2075
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Keep writing, Maggie. Your travels through this journey have been a great help to me.

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Old 03-23-2016, 07:35 PM   #2076
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Just keep going Maggie. You have to know there are many of us on here who follow but seldom have anything we need to add. Just know that we appreciate you and your sharing. I'm here ...you are there but your writing style lets us be along for the ride. It's enjoyable getting to know you. Wish we could be at your rally and meet new friends. Hope you enjoy. We are at least planning to attend Ohio Amish country gathering in early April. Great people there too.
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Old 03-23-2016, 08:23 PM   #2077
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I'll keep writing as long as people keep reading, and it feels like the right thing to do.

Just difficult to understand negativity apparently bestowed on a widow struggling after the death of her husband.


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Old 03-24-2016, 06:20 AM   #2078
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Goog Morning Maggie!

Beautiful sunrise. Hug Lily for me. Tell John Leake Scott & Jane (Skitique) said hi.

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I will do that, Jane.


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I'll keep writing as long as people keep reading, and it feels like the right thing to do.

Just difficult to understand negativity apparently bestowed on a widow struggling after the death of her husband.


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Maggie, People do react different to widow's and divorcees. Maybe their uncomfortable or feel threaten around a single person. I don't know. It sure does open your eyes to who your real friends are. I'm glad your are a early riser. Watching the sun rise with a cup of coffee, is just as beautiful as watching sunset, with a glass of wine. Even Tho I haven't posted, doesn't mean I haven't followed your threads. You inspired me to purchase a set of cast iron cookware, with your easy one pot recipes. The problem I have is, no one to cook for. I would give my arm to have the relationship you had with Doug. You are so lucky to find a spouse who's was also your best friend. I think you know who your real friends are... scratch friends...your family Some day our paths will cross, and don't be surprised if a stranger walks up to you and give you a hug. Oh your ''scrubba wash bag'' thread might cost me 50.00 I am also impressed what a 50 yr old can do as far as yard work Keep your chin up my friend...Gregg
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Old 03-24-2016, 10:19 AM   #2082
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Maggie, I too, have heard of such negative comments...especially, 2 weeks after my dear daughter, Lynn, died, when my nursing supervisor in the O.R. "TOLD ME IT WAS TIME TO PULL MYSELF TOGETHER AND GET OVER IT"! Needless to say, I left that job soon after, as I could not bear to be around the woman after that. Some people are just plain stupid when around grief.

I find that everyone deals with death in different ways, and those who are in close contact with others in mourning, mostly , are compassionate and understanding. All in all, it appears to me that folks on this forum are informed, intelligent, and caring, and supportive. I have been so aware of how gently all respond to you, and others who have had loved ones die. This speaks to the decency and integrity of the group as a whole.

Re: Facebook? I've never gone there...but, have heard it is a sounding board for any manner of questionable behavior...some who say dumb things...even hurtful things...under the cloak of anonymity.....so, I don't go there. Enough problems in real life to address. I also don't watch reality shows....same reason.

Whatever you need...whenever you need it...we are all here for you. No judgement here...never! God bless you. Evelyn.
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Maggie, People do react different to widow's and divorcees. Maybe their uncomfortable or feel threaten around a single person. I don't know. It sure does open your eyes to who your real friends are. I'm glad your are a early riser. Watching the sun rise with a cup of coffee, is just as beautiful as watching sunset, with a glass of wine. Even Tho I haven't posted, doesn't mean I haven't followed your threads. You inspired me to purchase a set of cast iron cookware, with your easy one pot recipes. The problem I have is, no one to cook for. I would give my arm to have the relationship you had with Doug. You are so lucky to find a spouse who's was also your best friend. I think you know who your real friends are... scratch friends...your family Some day our paths will cross, and don't be surprised if a stranger walks up to you and give you a hug. Oh your ''scrubba wash bag'' thread might cost me 50.00 I am also impressed what a 50 yr old can do as far as yard work Keep your chin up my friend...Gregg
Thank you. .

I wasn't looking for reassurance that this thread is worthy, tho, folks....just expressing some confounded-ness at what another widow reports experiencing elsewhere on the Internet...but thanks for all the pat-pats.

We all need those once in awhile.

I know you and many others who don't post do read regularly, streaminwild, as I see your names at the bottom of this thread, and often get pm's with kind words and encouragement.

We inspire each other, really, but I'll take any credit that is actually mine.

If you think I am only 50, you are short by 16 years. That should make my yard work tales even more impressive.

If you come up close enough to give me a hug someplace, best introduce yourself first, lest you get a reaction from me or Lily that you are not expecting.

I hope that any who follow this thread that find themselves in the same place as me at any point in time, take a moment to introduce themselves.

There was someone here this past weekend...a non-Airstreamer...that I felt pretty sure for several reasons was a follower, but never said so. There was another person at James Island CP.

I would have liked to have known, and we would have had more to talk about. Not as much ice breaking to do, either....could perhaps share a meal, maybe cook one together, and have a nice chat.

I enjoy meeting and visiting with new folks....especially while traveling....as I otherwise spend an inordinate amount of time sharing my thoughts with Lily.

She is a very good listener, but not much of a conversationalist.

Seriously....introduce yourselves and say hello...please. Some have done this, but I hope everyone would feel comfortable doing so.

I was indeed fortunate to have married my best friend, and to have had that relationship for 27 years.

I know for certain that I am a better person now for having had him in my life.


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There was a police officer in Greenville killed by a fleeing suspect this past weekend.

Left two small boys, and a young wife with a baby girl due in July. So...sad.

He is being buried today. People lining the streets, the sea of blue as officers sent from all over the country come to pay their respects to one of their own....

There is something especially heart wrenching in the funerals of law enforcement and members of the military.


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Maggie, yes introductions first. I should have proof read first. Sometimes I wondered if I opened up too much for the forums, not a sign of weakness, but just being honest. Lafter is the best healer that I know, but it's hard to put down in words sometimes. Some people do get my sense of humor. I know your not 50, but hopefully I made you smile. Seriously, you would work circles around some kids today. I have a friend that was married the same day I was born 22yrs apart. She recently lost her husband and was feeling down so we started date night on Wednesday's. I did this to give her something to look forward to. Little did I know 5 yrs later she ended up being my best friend. We went to a Baltimore Oreo's game one night with seats 20' from the catcher. I noticed a older Lady watching the game all by herself. I would look every half hour to see who she was with until she mouthed ''I'm too old for you''. Around the sixth inning I got up to get hot dogs and cokes. On the way back I stopped at this lady and apologized for staring and told her how impressed I was seeing a single lady at the game who had the courage to go by herself. After I sat down next to my friend, she told me that the lady paid her a visit and was shocked that my friend was around the same age as her. Also told her about our arrangement as friends only. Come to find out this lady's husband used to own the Oreo's. This story is my way of telling all women here, how impressed I am seeing you having the courage to venture out on your own. My hats off to all of you
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That's sweet, Gregg, and I'm sure I can speak for all of us here in similar circumstances....we appreciate the support.

We go, because we aren't ready to stay at home, and because we are fortunate to have the ability.


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